Girls and Sex

*disclaimer: Girls is generalized, meant for AFAB (assigned female at birth) audience, and for educational purposes, not scientifically proven in any of these topics discussed, and it is all from my personal experiences.*

Table of Contents:

Girls are able to climax.

Girls are able to feel confident in their skin.

Girls are free to feel whatever they like.

Girls are doing their best.

Girls are able to climax.

Girls aren’t able to climax until they are fully relaxed calm and confident.

Often times there are social pressures from women to seem like they’re enjoying sex when they really aren’t. A lot of pornography sites, and media portrays women as the center of attention, and are commonly looked upon for the idealized moans and grunts from men.

Now you might be reading this for the first time, and if you know me personally this is nothing strange. But if you are a family member, or some creep please leave.

Now that I’ve addressed that, the idea of sex always interests me because why do men get to have all the fun. Why do men get to cum really fast?

Once I had a partner who told me he wished he was a woman because of all the fun women could possibly have while to him he only had one thing.

I didn’t think of it too much, maybe you can. I won’t delve into that.

Girls are able to feel confident in their skin.

What I mean by this is that whatever appearance you might have will not determine the amount of confidence one person could have. It genuinely feeds into how their close relationships are like, what they enjoy in life, and if they’re feeling like their up to their status quo.

If any of these things aren’t met, and it’s not an exclusive list by the way, then the girl might not feel confident in their skin while being exposed when having sex.

When I mean confident, for me it means I am doing well in school, I’m financially on top of my payments, rent, and gifts for others. I am getting my nails done whether that’s at the salon or on my own. I am also able to pour into other people’s cups and make them feel good about themselves.

When I get to share my confidence, and when people appreciate how confident I am that when I’m on my high horse and I think it’s a good time, and I love teaching others how to be confident. Because I know from my experience I use to love being around other confident nice people that I saw myself in them. This always gave me hope and inspired me to look a certain or act a certain way that brought and felt like confidence not only externally but internally.

Internally can also include what I put into my body, if I’m eating healthy, staying hydrated, exercising regularly, taking my vitamins and if the weather is sunny out. Sometimes on gloomy days that could make everything turn out sour.

Girls are free to feel whatever they like.

By this I mean, sometimes there’s a certain expectation women put on themselves that they are only allowed to climax from their clitorus. I am here to demistify that because there are many ways to orgasm and please yourself. I suggest reading more books and doing some online searches on like AutoStraddle for adults or TeenScarlet for a younger audience.

I think understanding what makes you feel good in the first place is critical. Do you feel good when you engage in classes?

Does it feel good to approach a person you’ve had an eye on for a while to get coffee?

Does it feel good to walk out the house when you are wearing your goodluck charm?

Does it feel good to talk to your teacher and confirm whether if you are on the right track or not?

If you answered yes to any of the above. I encourage you to explore why. Why did these things create a sense of confidence, and what part of it exactly makes it feel good? Are you recieving external validation, is this internalized that wearing x,y,z will make you better? Is it religion? What are your beliefs, and value system?

You can continue exploring this by being genuinely curious and nuturing yourself through this process. There’s no rush to have an answer right away. And certainly no rush to climax and feel youself 100%. This process is going to take a lot of time.

Girls are doing their best.

When having sex, I’ve had the comment, ‘come for me.’

Personally that’s a huge turn off for me, I hate hearing those words, and I especially hate getting told what to do with my body. I already am thinking of cumming and for someone to push that onto me, I feel a set of expectations.

For me personally, I already am doing my best. I would love to hear what you enjoy, and what you feel, and what’s something you like about me. But to tell me what to do. That’s a bit much.

With that all said, girl be light on yourself you are already doing a lot. Call it quits, explore yourself on your own, buy a sex toy, explore your adult sex stores and websites. The world is your oyster, now go get em!

Lastly:

Girls are able to climax.

Girl don’t worry about this piece. I have had friends ask me, how do you know if you came? Girl, if you cum, you WILL know. There’s no questioning it.

If you’re having a good time in bed, that’s all that matters. Don’t put the additional pressures of cumming. If you are enjoying it, keep enjoying it. It’ll be fine. Don’t worry about your partner too much, and don’t over stress it while you’re in bed.

Now, signing out.

If you have any inquiries, reach me here:

fikawithhill@gmail.com

happy to chat and make a virtual session or email!